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The Slacker Mom

I’ll Sacrifice Tomorrow, Just to Have You Here Today

by Erin Clotfelter on 11/03/2015


It’s November. In Minnesota.  And it’s 70 degrees out.

I’m staring at my backyard that is still covered with kid toys, and lawn tools, and an unfinished patio, and I can’t help but think we are playing with fire here.  It’s going to actually be winter soon, and then those toys and lawn tools will be covered in snow, and that unfinished patio project will cease to just be an eyesore and turn into a major hazard for anyone trying to walk across the backyard.  We need to get on this stuff, but the weather is not conducive to getting everything put away for the winter.

We need to rake!  We need to mow!  We need to put away the trampoline and the patio furniture!  I need to put down grass seed! We need to fill in that damn hole before someone breaks a leg!  But I’m over here ignoring all of it.  I’m enjoying these days of having the windows open and the breeze blowing through.  It makes up for the craziness of darkness at 5pm thanks to daylight savings time.

I never get used to the early darkness.  By 6:00 I’m ready to tuck everyone into bed and sit on my ass.  Instead I have an endless list of places to be: PTO, CPEO, SEAC, Site Council, Partners in Policymaking, and on and on and on.  When did I become a joiner?

I digress.

Winter is coming.  It’s my favorite time of year.  When everything gets covered in a quieting blanket of snow.  When the air has that distinct winter snow smell that I can’t ever describe.  When it’s OK to sit inside and be cozy, and churn out baked goods, and burn candles, and wear sweaters, and plan holiday meals and map out holiday traditions on the calendar.

Winter is coming.  I hope it snows.



by Erin Clotfelter on 09/09/2015

We told the boys they could have a kitten.

This doesn’t seem like a huge deal, except I have been saying for the past year that I am in no uncertain terms, done with pets.  D.O.N.E.  And then a friend with a pregnant cat offers up kittens, and half jokingly I asked Yogi Dad if we should get a kitten, only to be met with a very enthusiastic- Yes!

So, we are getting a kitten.

“Because all kids should have the experience of raising a pet.”

To prepare for this kitten, who is expected to come earthside sometime in late September/early October, we need to get the last of the carpet out of our house.  I can’t have cats and carpet.  More specifically, I can’t have Henry-Simon, and a new kitten, and carpet.  I can barely have Henry-Simon and carpet as it is.  He’s kind of a passive aggressive asshole that way.  I’m anticipating some angst-y days after our little furball friend joins us.  I have visions of him just giving up the cat box altogether to show his displeasure at the situation.

That said, I’m hoping Henry-Simon enjoys this new addition.  He seems lonely without Audrey and Stanley.  He needs someone to bum around with.  He needs someone to get him up and moving instead of hiding under the bed all day long.  He needs someone to boss around.  Someone that isn’t me.


The major conversation around our house lately revolves around what to name this kitten.  We get first choice of the girls, so I’ve been rallying for Gertie.  I think it fits well with Audrey/Henry-Simon/Stanley.  So far I’ve only convinced Lincoln that *this* is the name for our kitten.  Wyatt and Judah have settled on Gnocchi, like the cat on Curious George.

It’s been almost 14 years since we’ve adopted a new pet.  Where will she sleep?  How will we contain her?  What if she gets out and is eaten by the neighborhood fox or one of those gigantic blackbirds that are everywhere?!  So many things going through my mind.  I need new cat bowls, and a collar, and something to scratch on, and heaps of catnip to keep Henry-Simon content.

I’m excited for the boys to meet this new addition.  I don’t know what I was thinking saying I was done with pets.  As if that could ever be good.



Communication is Key

May 31, 2015

If you are going to make big sweeping changes to how something is done, you need to communicate early (and often!) to the people those changes will be affecting.  This seems like a simple rule, but  it’s not always put into practice. Over the past few months our district has been talking about upcoming changes […]

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This Feels…Weird

January 27, 2015

It’s been just over 4 years since the word “autism” was brought into our life. The boys have had many (MANY!) evaluations.  They have logged countless hours of speech, and OT.  They have graduated from an autism day treatment program, and they stand before me looking far different than they did on that December day, […]

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Scentbird: Making my Obsession Affordable

January 24, 2015

I’ve talked about my love of perfume on a few occasions. It’s still going strong, and I’m still working through my list of scents I need to smell. I’m actually adding to that list every week. There is always something new, always something new to fall in love with.  A lot of them are niche, […]

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Merry Christmas!

December 20, 2014

I’ve done it- I actually got my Christmas cards ordered, addressed, stamped, and MAILED…this year!  BEFORE CHRISTMAS! I actually had 4 different orders. When you have such a hard time getting them out, you don’t buy 100 right out of the gate.  You buy 50.  And then 20.  and then 10 (because there couldn’t possible […]

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Perfume, and a Book Rave

August 29, 2014

A few months ago, I joined a book club. I really needed an outlet that didn’t have anything to do with a) Autism, or b) parenting, and this was right up my alley.  The books have been fun to read, the company has been great (we’ve only have one meeting, but still- awesome group!).  The […]

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Sometimes Parenting is Hard

May 6, 2014

I’ve been saying it for a long time.  Judah is by far, our hardest kid.  He meets his milestones.  He has conversations at a level far above that at which he should.  He is polite.  He is helpful.  He is a loving cuddle bug who wants to be with me all. the. time. I asked […]

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So this happened…

April 29, 2014

(Let’s pretend I didn’t just completely neglect this space for the better part of the past year and jump right into the here and now, shall we?) This kid joined our family: Silas 7 pounds, 11 ounces 20.25 inches At first he looked like this: All nice and pink*, and perfectly happy not impressed to […]

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Queen of my Castle

November 5, 2013

This is going to ramble a bit… Way back in July (August?) we decided we were just going to go ahead and announce this pregnancy so I could freely talk about it here.  Of course that pretty much meant I would have all of the energy (and will) sapped from my body immediately and I […]

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