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This Feels…Weird

by Erin Clotfelter on 01/27/2015

It’s been just over 4 years since the word “autism” was brought into our life.

The boys have had many (MANY!) evaluations.  They have logged countless hours of speech, and OT.  They have graduated from an autism day treatment program, and they stand before me looking far different than they did on that December day, when Early Intervention came for a speech evaluation.

Today, after 3.5 years of speech and OT, the boys have “graduated” from Fraser.

This is most likely just a break from speech and OT, and a much needed one.  We are now mentally in a place where this seems like the right thing, the best thing, and we are not afraid of scaling back to “just” school, and the services they get there.  I couldn’t say that two years ago.  Who am I kidding? I couldn’t say that a year ago!

The absolute hardest thing for me, is leaving Lincoln’s amazing speech therapist.  All of our therapists have been great, but Maureen has been with Lincoln since day 1.  From early on, she was his “person”.  It certainly wasn’t me or John.  It was sometimes Grandma, but mostly Maureen.  It took much longer for Lincoln to find his words, we were preparing ourselves for him to never talk.  And it was really hard to imagine, considering Wyatt had started picking up sounds and words just a few months after starting ECSE.

Lincoln Speech

But then, he started naming letters.  And making more sounds.  And then words.  And then came the reading.  Oh the READING!  And now, we have a 6 year old who is constantly narrating life, navigating all of our adventures, and telling some very tall tales.

Today, as we walked from our car to the front door of Fraser, I remembered those first months, when they were not quite 3.  The boys had to wear their backpack leashes just to get through the parking lot safely.  I was an emotional mess at every session.  Everything was overwhelming.  Autism was scary.

I recognize that although they still have some issues in waiting rooms (Wyatt can’t walk by a reception desk without checking on the state of the computers), it’s really hard to leave the building without making a dash for the “big gym”, and they still have countless hurdles ahead of them…they have come a really long way.  I have come a long way.  Autism isn’t nearly as scary as it seemed in 2011.

Today feels really good.


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Scentbird: Making my Obsession Affordable

by Erin Clotfelter on 01/24/2015

I’ve talked about my love of perfume on a few occasions. It’s still going strong, and I’m still working through my list of scents I need to smell. I’m actually adding to that list every week. There is always something new, always something new to fall in love with.  A lot of them are niche, or hard to find in the Twin Cities, but there is always something.

A few months ago, I came across a brand new subscription service called Scentbird.

Scentbird black

For $14.95 I get an 8ml vial of the designer perfume of my choice, delivered right to my door. Because I never seem to be able to get anywhere other than Target, and dragging kids to the mall sounds about as fun as twisting a rusty fork in my eyeball, this works perfectly for me.

The first month I ordered Burberry Brit Rhythm for Her- and I fell instantly in love. It’s like a sexy, spiced up version of Burberry Brit, which I wore for years. This month I ordered Bulgari Rose Essentielle, which I think I might like more than Stella. Which seems almost blasphemous, as Stella kind of made smelling like roses, hip again.

Each vial is supposed to last for 30 days. I honestly have the majority of each vial left, because I don’t use the same perfume every day, and I don’t wear perfume every day (just most days), so I feel like I’m definitely getting my monies worth out of this service.


I’ve done a few monthly subscriptions in the past, and this is by far my favorite, and the only one I have stuck with for more than a month. I’m five months in, and I can’t see myself stopping unless they discontinue the service. I really hope they don’t, this is my little indulgence. Even my lattes get sucked down by the boys- this is just for me!

Interested in switching up your scent? Please- click my affiliate link. This isn’t a sponsored post, I just really love this, and thought I would share.



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