Raise your hand if you have a daughter.
Raise your hand if she is a toddler.
Raise your hand if she is in pre-school.
Raise your hand if you are OK with some random room Dad helping her with her undies in the bathroom.
Got your attention?
I’m not OK with this.
Jenna Myers Karvunidis wasn’t either.
When she went to drop her daughter off at the pre-school co-op and saw the volunteer of the day was a Dad, it occurred to her that she had not considered that he might be in charge of bathroom duty. She asked what the policy was (there was no policy preventing a man taking a girl to the bathroom). Then she asked them to make sure her daughter was always with a woman when she was in the bathroom. She did not ask them to revisit their policies for everyone, she just wanted to make sure her daughter was never in the bathroom with a man.
Her reasoning was this: how do you teach your kids stranger danger and good touch bad touch when you blur the lines. How can so and so’s dad be OK helping in the bathroom at school but that same act not be OK at a neighborhood BBQ. Two-year-olds don’t really have a lot of reasoning capabilities- I totally get why she questioned this.
The school eventually granted her request and then went a step further and said they would investigate the policies in other pre-schools and come up with something more in line. Win-Win! Right?
Not so fast.
A Men’s Rights group on Reddit picked up her post and they were not too fond of what she had to say. They called her a bigot, they called her a bitch, they called her many other things. They took to her blog in droves.
They registered her as a Bigot on Register-Her!
They are trying to figure out where she lives.
Most of them ignored the fact that she was talking about a *volunteer* and not someone hired to be in the classroom.
They all dismissed the fact that she is just a mom, looking out for her daughter. Which is her right. Actually, it’s her JOB. Maybe if someone these guys Moms had done the same, they wouldn’t be so angry today?
She eventually took her post down but Jezebel picked up the story and the comment threads continue to grow on Reddit.
I won’t blow smoke, I’m not her biggest fan. But, I do think she’s one heluva mom.
And NO ONE deserves to be bullied for trying to keep their kid safe.