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When a Friend Dies

Posted: November 7th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Before We had Kids! | 4 Comments »

Yesterday I was talking to my Mom and she was telling me about how she was driving home and saw a huge bunch of cars parked along side the road and thought someone must be having some sort of  family gathering or something, she said she saw an Audi among those cars, which made her want to find some Audi A3 deals so she could get one. As she was explaining this to me I kept thinking in the back of my mind that this was the house my friend grew up in.  I had only been there a handful of times, mostly to drop off or pick up after a Mock Trial meet.  As she is telling me how she went home and was trying to see what had happened, doing Google searches and finally coming up with this,  I still wasn’t putting two and to together..  As she got closer she realized it wasn’t that at all.  Sheriff’s vehicles and a mobile crime lab were lining the street.  The entire property was blocked off with yellow tape.

That was my friend’s house.

That was my friend.

Last night when I was perusing Facebook while waiting for the dryer to finish I saw a status update of another friend from high school talking about how one of the people we graduated with had been assaulted and was in the hospital.

I still hadn’t put two and two together and when I saw his name it was like the air just got sucked out of the room.

A million questions flew through my mind but Who? and Why? are the most prominent.

The outpouring on his Facebook page after it was announced that he had died from his injuries brought tears to my eyes with each refresh.

He was Brilliant seemed to be the overall consensus.  And he was.

I won’t pretend that I was his closest friend these days or even that I kept in regular touch with him through anything other than Facebook.  But that doesn’t mean he wasn’t a part of my life.  That doesn’t mean he wasn’t my friend.

All of the drives to Plymouth for Mentor Connection our senior year.  German class, Mock Trial, my first concert ever (Soul Asylum), the Radiohead concert we went to when we were home on break our freshman year in college, the time he flew to Missouri to stay with my roommate and I my junior year in college, seeing him again at our 10 year reunion and never quite getting our schedules to work out to meet up for a show.

He was brilliant.  That is a fact.

He was a lovely human being who made an impact on everyone he met and he will be missed.

Rest peacefully, Rob.


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4 Comments on “When a Friend Dies”

  1. 1 Liv Lane said at 10:03 am on November 7th, 2011:

    What a shock. I'm so sorry. It's amazing when these things happen how you're catapulted to the last time you were together, and to all the memories you shared, and they all feel so recent and fresh. Sounds like he made an impact on you and others. What a gift to remember the things that made him so amazing as you grieve his passing. xoxo
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  2. 2 julie said at 12:27 pm on November 7th, 2011:

    Erin, I am so so sorry for your loss. I remember hearing about Rob All. The. Time. while you were in high school. If anyone was going to succeed it was Rob. And he did. Going to Standford, working on research projects so early in his career. I don't remember meeting him. although I wish I had. He sounded like such a great guy. I forgot about him coming to MU to visit. We had a laughs over that visit. I know you will miss him. Hang onto your memories.
    He will be missed. I know when we lose a friend it can be very difficult. I lost my best friend from high school to breast cancer, she did not make it to her 30th birthday, and 3 mos. after her son was born. Patty, Linda and I have remained friends and that has helped us to heal.

    I love you,


    Prayers to you and Robs family and many many firends.

  3. 3 Bonnie said at 12:34 pm on November 7th, 2011:

    So sorry to hear about this Erin. Thinking of you!
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  4. 4 jackie said at 6:00 pm on November 7th, 2011:

    I am so sorry about your friend. I know how hard it is. I lost one of my good friends 5 years ago. We weren't as close as we used to be, but it hurt a lot when she died.

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