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Well-Visit Fail

Posted: March 26th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: Parenting | Tags: Autism | 5 Comments »

I’m late on the boys 3 year  well-visits.  Months and months late.

Up until this one, I always had a nanny to help me with the twins or someone to watch them while I took Judah.  This time around I decided if i didn’t have any help, I was going to bring one at a time.  Friday was Lincoln’s turn (he did really great!) and today was Wyatt’s turn.

Except Judah also needed to get 2 vaccinations and I am trying to get back on our schedule…so I thought really.  How hard can it be?

People bring 2, 3, 4, 5, 6+ to the pediatrician by themselves all the time.  Why can’t I do it?

Today reaffirmed to me that if I don’t *have* to do it, I shouldn’t.  Ever ever.  Never.

Let’s set the stage:

No naps. (strike 1)

Coming off an overnight at Grandpa E’s is proving to be pretty disastrous business for Lincoln and Wyatt.  (strike 2)

We had to wait.  30+ minutes to get into a room.  We never have had to wait. (strike 3)

I knew it was going to be chaotic so I had toys and books (but not Wyatt’s “special page”), I had snacks.

They weren’t having it.  Judah ran laps in the waiting room.  They both climbed all over the benches like a couple of monkeys, which was fine with me because they weren’t bothering anyone.  Wyatt was just standing there reading a book.  No one was even on our end of the room which is divided into 3.   I knew it was going to be a major issue to get Wyatt to not stand on the seat and that was just a battle I wasn’t going to do with one arm while trying to get Judah to listen as well.

Until another mom stood next to me and yelled at her (younger) kid to get down.

Then I was on high alert.

I was the bad mom.

I was mom shamed.

Then I tried to physically wrangle them down which made matters so much worse.  I almost walked out right then but instead I asked at the desk if we could please get into a room ASAP.  At least if we were contained in a room, no one could judge me for letting my kid stand on the chair.

Finally they got us into a room and the awesome nurse rustled up different toys and books and crayons and coloring books.  All was quiet for about 5 minutes.

And then all hell broke loose.  I was so over this visit.

We finally got to see Dr. C and it was such a rushed visit I didn’t talk nearly as much about how Wyatt was doing compared to Lincoln’s visit last week.  I didn’t even get my 3-year sheets with the weight and all that jazz on it.  I didn’t even notice until I got home.

I know other moms do this all.the.time.

I am not ever going to be that mom.  I don’t want to be that mom.  Right now I have 3 year olds with autism and when you combine a 3 year old with sensory seeking autism, with a 19 month old who into everything, you are just set up for failure in situations like that.  It is so much easier to control with one on one attention.

So, there you have it.  I tried it.  Back to the easy way!

And yes, I did walk right into my house afterwards, open up the fridge and grab a beer.

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5 Comments on “Well-Visit Fail”

  1. 1 Toni The Chic Momma said at 9:33 pm on March 26th, 2012:

    Wowza. What a day! Following you from Manic Mommy Monday! http://www.tonithechicmomma.com

  2. 2 Christina said at 10:07 pm on March 26th, 2012:

    I hear ya! (Although chocolate is my drug of choice…Lol!) My oldest is high functioning autistic and then I have a set of twins that are two years younger. I didn't take them all out as a group by myself until they were 6 and 4…. I was just too freaked out by it. My confidence is growing as they get older, but it is still tough.
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  3. 3 erinclot said at 10:13 pm on March 26th, 2012:

    Christina- you give me hope for the future!

  4. 4 Heidi Meinecke-Smith said at 11:10 pm on March 26th, 2012:

    My last few visits to the doctor have been nightmares in the waiting rooms, and I only have one that is mobile and not autistic! You deserve mad props!!! I completely understand about not wanting to be "that" mom but you know what? Sometimes we just don't have a choice in what is going on. You sound like you are doing the best you can and that's all you can do!
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  5. 5 Suzanne said at 9:18 pm on March 27th, 2012:

    WOW, that was intense just reading it!
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